Bottom Lines Create Top Lines :Experience, Strength & Hope for Sex and Love Addicts

If I have a trigger I am trigger-ed once. Once= One time. If I am continually triggered - that means than I am stuck in  thinking feeling more than once= multiple times If I am in a state of thinking and feeling multiple times that means I have crossed the line into complusive thinking= Complusive thinking means I am beyond human aid and I cant stop When I am beyond human aid than it is a signpost that  I am  powerless. Powerless= without power Essentially I am without power when I am "triggered".  Lets be honest though, being "triggered" just means  my thinking is selfish and self centered clothed in wolf clothing of  " frothy psychological appeal" When a person in SLAA says " I was triggered this week or triggered today " what they / you are even me  is saying is that: 1) I am victim to life 2) I am inadequate  More importanly If this statement doesnt follow with a solution like " yes that happened but I prayed and god helpe...

Paradigm is defined as a pattern or model. SLAA recovery gives me the opportunity to enter a new pattern of behavior and a new paradigm . This paradigm is a world of sustainable love without conditions and this love is given to me by a higher power.  It is a world of purpose beyond relationships and what I can get but about giving and witnessing how god is working in my life and the life of others. Delusion is defined in the Merriam Webster dictionary as being a  belief or impression that one maintains despite it being contradicted in reality or rational argument...it can often be a symptom of a mental disorder  Often old ideas or delusions can re surface in recovery .  These old ideas can take hold similar like how a virus that has been beaten wants to rehook itself into our cells and trick our immune system into replicating itself. Often times this can occur when putting the principles of recovery to practice such as entering a new romantic re...

“ We were doing the withdrawing;” we were choosing to take back or withdraw the energy which we had been squandering on futile pursuits. This very energy, now back within us, was helping us to become whole people"  Sex and love addicts Anonymous First Edition pg -113  The beginning stages of our step and recovery process is what our literature calls withdrawal. This stage is a beginning of healing from the pain of numbing out on a person, sex or situation and allows us to be available to our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual life. Often times this occurs after we have created bottom lines and are withdrawing our energy from the addictive behaviour. Through letting go of the addictive situation we are able to look at our own stumbling blocks, behaviors, and challenges that create a disconnection between ourselves and the power that will help us not act out, stay sober and as a result identify what creates a disconnection between ourselves, other people and the c...